Every person has to discover
What will set off those explosions in order to live, since the combustion that occurs when one of them is ignited is what nourishes the soul.
That fire in short, is its food. If one doesn't find out in time what will set off these explosions, the box of matches dampens, and not a single match will ever be lighted.
Almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure. These things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.